Life..The Experience Of Using Our Time

Wil Womens Journey Self Love Pt3

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Welcome all you Wild Women to my last post on 'Self Love', two weeks sure flies around here!  I know many of you are taking time to do the work I have suggested and I love your feedback, it lets me know Im heading in the right direction too.  So lets get going with this post and see what you can take from it to help move yourself into a new more posotive you xxx

My Experience

This is my experience with 'Self Love'. I feel it is a common thread these days, especially with the over communication of our times, we are so much closer but so much further from each other, there is gap emerging in our lives which is hard to pin point, here is the story of what was mine.

When I was lacking in self love, it was expressed as complete loneliness, a desperation for love from anyone but the ones who did love me. I could be in a room full of people who were friends and feel completely alone and isolated, Its like I couldn't reach them, so close but so far, I began to feel worse and worse and that began to show on the outside with me seeming more awkward with each passing day. It showed to me in the fact that every time I laughed (rarely) it felt completely fake and put on.

Naturally invitations dried up for the weird girl, I felt I was revisiting childhood rejection from school days. I started to fret about not being invited to things that I wouldn't have even been invited to on a normal day, all I saw was what I was not being invited to as opposed to what I was. Socially I had shut down so I used my professional interactions as ways to connect with people. I started to do the one thing that I knew could get me love..... I started to 'Volunteer'.

I was the girl who took on any role that was going to help out, take charge, give of myself. There was nothing I wouldn't do for a little praise, Ohh the praise and thanks, but in the end all that praise went no where, it all sunk into the big black hole of loneliness inside of me within an hour of receiving it. So what did I do? I did more! because surely if I had more praise it would finally hit the magic spot...my heart. But it didn't and I burnt out from the frantic volunteering.

When I had to give up my life that wasent working and let it all burn away,... I was left with ...me, and once I learned to love me, the old original me, all the loneliness melted away. I had found myself in a place quite the opposite to before, a place I didn't want people to come to, I chose complete isolation and it helped me to find a life that relied on ME only. Filling myself with love from me and what I do for me! So now that I'm back out in the world anything like praise, appreciation and love that does come my way, leaves a warm glow and I just move along happily with good memories.

I go out a lot less and enjoy my time at home more than before, when friends go to parties I not invited to, I love to hear their stories and see photos, I no longer feel Resent or Jealousy for the things that don't come my way. I have a wondeful group of friends that I appreciate for who they are, not for how they make me feel.  I do what I do and finally that is enough for me. I love the feeling of satisfaction from nothing but everyday life, it means that anything else that happens to me tips me over into absolute ecstatic happiness.  It shows me that my cup is already full and just waiting to be overflowed daily.

I now take a huge amount of wisdom from the following quote, I think it speaks of our society today.  Not many are satisfied and spend all their time hunting for something that will never fill the hole inside them.  We are the only ones who can fill them and heal them, this is our journey...and our alone . xxx

“ If you don't appreciate what you already have, then how could you be happier with more”

Wild Woman Challenge
'Everyday Muses...aka Friends'

This is a little something you probably do each day without even thinking of it, but its always best to do things with intention.  Coming from an Inspiring angle rather than a Envious angle will surround your thoughts is good energy too.....so...

Make a list of your closest friends or people you like to be around or think of, they can be personal friends and family, work mates, strangers, or even famous people.  The main thing is you can sense something about their personalities. 

Once you have a list of names, write down a trait they have that you love the best, there are so many wonderful things about other people to admire, so write them down.
Are these traits that you wish to own yourself ?
Can you use your friends as inspiration to be a better you??
This can be a two fold experience, because you can gain the knowledge for yourself and also by concentrating  on others good points, the love multiplys and you bring more of that light into this world.
We need to celebrate each other a little more : )

I concentrated on my good friends that came to my tea party and this is what I came up with.  Try not to think too hard, I pretend that someone asks me about a friend "What is your friend Renee like?" and I answer with the first special thing about their personality that comes to me.

Wild Woman Challenge

'Self Love Portraits'

We all have photos that we love of other people, and I save those beloved photos in the hope that one day I will get off my ass and take them of myself.  Well this week I brought a remote for my camera which means I can set up the photos and click away till I get it right. 

The first one I did was one I love of Stevie Nicks. 

Its good to note that you should try and capture the photo in your style.  Its heart breaking when you give yourself a photo to copy perfectly and its so hard to do, and it feels like an epic fail.  So here is MY version of the Stevie Nicks photo.  Set up took all of 5 mins, dressed on top, pyjamas on the bottom, sitting on my daughters floor with a backdrop stung from her wardrobe to the tree in the other corner. Bedside lamp with no shade, camera sitting on chair with remote in hand.  Yes this is the real world, no studio needed!  Then I 'Picasa' it afterwards and its magic.

So try to dedicate some time to yourself this weekend getting those dream photos done, even better if you can do it with a friend whos willing to have hers done too.

So fun and the results are there for a life time, I always think my grandkids will love photos of me like this.

I think Im gonna print this one out big!
Its nice, you cant see my broken nose! eek!

Self Love Questionaire

Now you have done all your Self Love work, here is a little questionaire to test where you stand in the whole 'Self Love' world.
Print out the PDF Here
I love to do questionnaires and put them away to be read years later, it shows the hugest amount of changes in our life, and are sometimes a good laugh, or a bit sad seeing yourself stuck in a space you thought was unmoveable at the time.
Ohh 'Hindsight' you are a wonderful thing
there will be a questionnaire after each section so keep them all together, maybe for a time capsuel!

Thankyou so much for Journeying with me

See you on Monday for our new topic

which I was going to tell you

but there are too few surprises left in this world

so sorry!! : )

xxx

Sheree

Nature Girls Winter Fun

School holidays are here and that means we get to spend time just having fun with no timetables for anyone young.  So we gathered our girlie friends together to have some nature fun.

We took to the sea on Poppa's fishing boat and went for a ride around the harbour. it was an amazing winters day, sun shining, no wind.

This is how winter should be... always xxx

the water was soo clear

and the girls enjoyed seeing their home from a different perspective, water to land, not land to water.

our cute babies

and plenty of Native Coatsal Bush

Deserted Beaches

and Nature

To Ponder

and learning about fishing boat thingys

Thanks Poppa the girls had soo much fun xxx

After our boat ride we went to the fairy forest and lit a fire (check out the fairy hovering over Pipi dogs head, theyre both wondering whats for lunch)... but not yet...first..

Fairy Hunting

and then time for pre-cooked cheese sizzlers sausages



with plenty of Watties Tomato Sauce

and of course Marshmallows too

Marshmallow Cheeks

even Louee the kitten came for an adventure too

to hunt for creatures on a Winters Day



We love the adventures we have in this forest below our house, its an amazing cosy forest for the kids, you can see a post I did about it last year HERE. (photo below)

 We come and cook our dinner over the fire and play Bush People, one of my favorite childhood games, I always wanted to be stranded somewhere so I would have to survive.  I have found out recently its a trait of having a 'Libra North Node'.  Soooo Fun!

All this winter fun is great but bring on spring!! I want to get planting some flowers and summer veges : )

Hope your having an adventure where ever you are

much wintery love

sheree

xxx

Wild Woman Journey. Self Love. Pt2

For Wild Woman Journey Intro and Info Click HERE

Thankyou to everyone who is following this journey both publicly and privately, the feedback has been awesome and its great that there are so many of  you wonderful women interested in reclaming yourself.  I am enjoying connecting with you all.  This will be easier for a few of you if i could send you personal feedback on your comments, check your comment reply address is on because when I get a comment that says "no reply comment" when emailed to me, I am unable to personally email you back.

So onwards we Journey to todays topics, which is the....

Wild Woman Challenge

How do we see ourselves??
Its all very well doing this self love work on ourselves, but a big thing is how you are actually seeing yourself, what words do you use to explain the type of person you are.  Have you ever been stuck for words in a job interview when asked of your good points and heaven forbid your BAD points!  For this Wild Woman Challenge we are going to delve to the depths of our 'Personal Words'.
For sure there are some traits which cant be explained as words, we will just leave those as the bits of whimsy and magic that swirl around you. 

For this challenge you are going to need to start with about half and hour of time in silence with no distractions, no people, phones or electricals. Just a space for you.  You need a pen and two pieces of paper to write on.  And get comfy, I like to do this sitting in bed, my favorite place!  Maybe a window to look out for the blocked lost in thought moments.

The Glowing Things About You

Hold your paper in front of you and write at the top "I completely accept myself because I am...." Then close your eyes, centre yourself, by breathing in and out with awareness, its not any technical breathing, just watching how you breathe will bring you back to yourself and help seperate from the outside world for a bit.  Take about 1 min to centre.  Concentrate on the words " I AM " as you breathe.  Then open your eyes and write.  Single words or little statements about who you are!  you can write all over the page or a neat list, just try to get a whole page in there, you know you can!!

When your Glowing list is done, smile to yourself because you know its true, and put it aside.

The Dark Things About You

Now take out your other sheet and write at the top "Today I release my tendency to be....".  Sit for another 1 min breathing thinking the words "I RELEASE" and then start writing all the Dark things about yourself you would rather not have.  This is a harder list to do as sometimes our self rightness gets in the way.  The easiest way to do this list is in small explaining sentences 'stressed about money' 'a dweller on my health issues' etc, explain the behaviour.  the trick is to do you list double spaced on the way down and by the time you get to the bottom you are really into it and have opened up to how you really are, and I love to look at my bad points in a funny posotive light, it gives you the EEK!! feeling, sad but true! hehe  So once your at the bottom go back up and fill in every gap, I got 41 traits on my list, blurred for your convenience!  So dig deep, get real and stop hiding behind the perfect door.

and once again smile because you know it WAS true but now that your aware its the first part of change!

Lets Bathe In Our Beauty

So for those with beautiful hand writing YAY! (Im not one of them) you can write up your glowing list to hang up and be read every day.  But for people like me you can make up a page alah computa with cool fonts and colours.  Put those words up to affirm with yourself every day that this IS who you are.  When we want to attract something to our life we have to make sure that our actions donot contradict our desire, so by reading about how wonderful we are daily, by highlighting our good points, those points will grow in love and just get better and better and start affecting not just us but those around us too.
You outer level must not contradict you inner, lets get them in tune.
So hang your words and be proud and grow!

Letting Go Of The Darkness

One of the big questions is 'why are people still living IN darkness'?  Its a place no one wants to be but its a place so many of us dwell because it feels, comfortable, easy and somehow soothing.  "things are shit again..ohh well never mind Im used to it : ( "  Its the easy road when breaking thru and making things better can seem like such a huge task, its almost exhausting thinking about it.  here we are going to work on releasing those realities and default settings.  So with your list in hand of all the darkness you no longer NEED! (yes thats right, YOU are the one holding onto it, not anyone else), set up a special place outside.  Just a nice spot and light a few candles and be comfortable, there are going to be flames, so outside is sort of essential. 
Read your list  "Today I release my tendency to be...........

at the end thank your traits for being here and teaching you the lessons you needed to learn but now they are no longer required, you must be greatful, Im sure they have taught you a great lot and a few will be back to teach you again.  Then BURN that piece of paper and watch all your negative traits turn to ash.  Say thankyou to who ever you please, god, goddesses, angels, stars, earth.. who ever you connect with, talk about what you are doing and why, ask for help, send out your wishes, let your dreams be know, SPEAK IT! and then go rub that ash into the ground or grass so it disappears, or blow it to the winds.

Letting go is done.

Go have a cuppa, dance for joy and go to bed with a smile on your face.

Letting go ceremonies are all about your ability to LET GO so have the intentions to go with your actions.

AND RELAX.

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The Beauty In You Art Tutorial

If you did the above 'Wild Woman Challenge' you should have your list either hand written or typed out to hang on you wall.  Here Im going to make a painting out of that list to make it even more beautiful and desireable to read.

* Take your page and find a canvas it will fit on with room to paint around, i found an old one I had already stuck recycled paper to years ago.

* Trace the size of you paper in pencil so not to paint behind it, you want to keep the background as light as possible.

* Masking tape the outside edge of your paper line to keep the paint a clean edge.

* And paint!, I used rainbow colours, I wanted something bright which I couldnt help looking at, just whatever comes from your heart is whats called for here.

* Have a nice time, listening to music...tra la la

* Take off your masking tape and check that the lines match up

*dry (hairdryer for me, its winter)

*Next wet your paper  IMPORTANT! ( I printed my page on inkjet printer THEN went and colour copied it WITH CARBON so that when its wet the colours WILL NOT run, If you wet your inkjet printed paper it will turn into a rainbow itself!)  So wet your paper so that when you glue it it dosent bubble up and bulge.

* Paint a glue or medium on background for paper

*gently attach paper and brush with more medium and smooth down gently with hands.

* Voila

* Use pencil to outline a pretty design, of course I went Indian

* Paint in with any colour you choose, I like the vibrant white, it extends the paper.

* Paint layer after layer until you are happy, ohh hang on we are already happy!

Setting The Love Free

* That night at Ladies Art Night I put on my setting free decorations, I use swirls because its a releasing symbol to me, 'letting things be free, extends the light in me'.  The dots represent the lessons I have learnt along the way.  We must be grateful for them.

My Wonderful Bit Of Inspiration

So here hangs my artful expression of myself, for all to see.

Its great for others to read so they can reinforce the traits they see in you too
It also shows they are wonderful friends if they are happy with your abundance.

and a little treasure hanging there to represent the one treasure I have created that gives back to me every day, maybe not 100% joy! but she is giving me something.... laughter, frustration, love, inspiration, stress, fun, exhaustion and an extension of my life, that needs to be set free more than anything I have.

So enjoy this process, I love mine

the best self portrait I've done so far

Lets See What You Come Up With

xxx

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My Favorite Self Love Quotes

Your job is you.  Unless you fill yourself up first, you have nothing to give to anybody.

Love is a frequency.  You can see evidence of love being expressed through people, but love is a feeling, and you are the only one that can radiate and emit that feeling of love inside of you

The Secret

Claiming ourselves, the good and the bad, is healing.  It's taking responsibility, for where we were and where we're going.  Claiming ourselves makes us active participants in our lives.

All we have is here - now - us.  We are all we ever need to be - here and now.  We are, at every moment what we need to be, if only we trust revealing our true selves, our centres to one another.  Our centres each need that of another.

Karen Casey

We cannot love other people and truly love this glorious gift of life if we have forgotten how to love ourselves

If you have forgotten how to love yourself, you will probably ask or demand too much of other people

Stephanie Dowrick

The unconscious mission of people everywhere is to escape the loneliness they sense as they lose touch with the sacred soul energy of life.  Yet the answer is not to escape the loneliness but rather to embrace it by learning self love, for you shall not be lonely if you are fond of the person you are alone with.

At the core of all human loneliness is an intense and compelling craving for a coming together with one's lost self.

Christopher Hansard