Wild Womans Journey on Self Love

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How often do we look outside ourselves to measure the amount of love we are feeling within? We spend our time analyzing relationships, testing how much our partners do for us to measure the amount of love between us, popularity keeps us high and full of love, you feel like your soaring, but then we are incredibly insecure and paranoid when it feels its gone, how do we be loved by everyone, why aren't we as needed as someone else, how can I get invited to everything my friends do?

If I have just one more person to love me then I will be happy, If my partner just loved me a bit more I would feel so much more worthy, I would feel...complete

We are all guilty, at some time we have done these things. We need to not make the mistake of looking to another person to make us feel lovable or worthwhile. This is our responsibility, no one else's. Our capacity for loving another person depends entirely on our capacity for loving ourselves, and taking care of ourselves. How can we ask those we love to give us what we are not prepared to give to ourselves. It is impossible and sets our relationships up to always fail. Do you have a long line of relationships that were lacking in helping you feel loved??

When we take charge of our happiness and go within everything changes.

Firstly you need to accept yourself just the way you are.

You are perfect.... you are YOU and that is all you need to be.

Unconditionally accept your past decisions and everything you have chosen to experience because it is something unique to you and is part of your path. Remember we are all on different paths so do not judge yourself and your achievements according to others and theirs, no matter how rosey they may look. If your lacking in self love it complicates your personality more than you may think, people can feel it, you know who I'm talking about, those 'messy' people. There needs to be a point where you stop splitting yourself in two, the outside you and the inside you, it is an exhausting game that will eventually have you burning out with your fake personality collapsing, it is a lot of misdirected energy and all that energy can be put into taking care of and loving yourself just as you would love and care for another person. There is enough love to go around, share some with your own heart.

A key to loving yourself is to stop trying to be someone for everyone else, you need to be someone for yourself. Once you truly love yourself, you will no longer hunger for appraisal, you wont need to be accepted by anyone else to feel like you are worthy.

So how do we get there, to this self love state??? simple and hard really. A lot of people do not even realize they are in a non love state with themselves, all their feelings are viable and its everyone else's fault for the way they feel. When you feel worst about yourself, you also feel most disconnected from other people, you feel the love has been cut off from you for some reason, you feel a victim of situations you cant control, which brings up a whole lot of other undesirable feelings. With self love you will be much less vulnerable to resenting other peoples happiness, or to feeling jealousy or envy for not being involved in their super world of big love.

Try this test of self love to see just how comfortable you are with the feeling of accepting yourself. Stand in front of the mirror, just your face will do, nice and close. Look into your eyes, wait until you feel really aware that you are there, look yourself in the eye and say "I Love You" "I Love You Just The Way You Are" "I Love Everything About You" "I Love You" "I Love You" "I Love You" over and over again until you feel comfortable and honest. Most will stop and have a quivery lip for a bit, its very confronting. The results show us that we are always willing to project our intense love onto others but what about the true love being projected onto ourselves, not always comfortable is it? Feels a bit weird maybe? even embarrassing? How wrong does that sound, If you cannot love yourself then who can you really love? How can we be giving out real love if this is how we feel about ourselves. I also use my shower time to shower myself in love and acceptance, wash and praise your body at the same time, loving it, something like this "I love my arms, I love my arms, I love my breasts, I love my breasts, I love my stomach, I love my stomach" as you wash over the body parts state that you love them. Feel genuine thanks that you have them, also praise your inside parts too, your heart, lungs, brain, kidneys. It is the gratitude that sends the love flowing, and you glowing.

Giving NO a Go. This was the biggest start to self love for me. Is saying yes and all that trying getting you the loving feeling you so desire??? No not really, so start to say no to the things you don't really need to be doing, or things that you instantly feel a little unsure about, even if you cant stretch to a No, try a 'think about it' for a while and see if no grows on you. Sure you will miss out on a little praise but it goes no where to your overall happiness in the end if you are not in self love. If you do have self love, you will feel no love lost or gained, just serenity in your freeing decision. So the theme here is do less for others and more for yourself and get more love! It does work, people do not mind it when you say no, they will understand, of course this is not stretching to neglect of others or responsibility, its saying no to the things that will no longer be fitting into your new personality. We cant always change and still be caught in the same routines.

The social hole we feel with low self love needs work too, the fear of missing out is huge and it seems that no amount of popularity and praise gets us to the top, compliments stay high for a small amount of time, no one is filling the gap, if only I had one more friend, someone who I could really connect with then I could be really happy, the one more friend pit, the one more follower on your blog, one more comment, one more sale of your art. You are giving your happiness away to a group of people who will never be able to satisfy you, no matter how hard they try, they have been set up for failure. To let go of this type of non love we need to understand that this is a type of Loneliness, that we are trying to overcompensate for. There is a difference with being alone and being lonely, they are very very different. Learn to appreciate time with YOU. Self love helps you feel satisfied with the smallest amount of social interaction, a wonderful day alone can be so rewarding when you are enough, alone, and then any other wonderful interactions on top of this are bonuses, and you appreciate everyone of them individually instead of stockpiling them into the great abyss of the social hole. You will even find yourself turning down invitations and saying No just because you would rather hang out at home for some peaceful time. Crossing over is a wonderful feeling.

What does this now mean for our partners, husbands, friendships and families. It can sometimes feel hard to gain your self love when you are involved with others who will not be joining you. Never fear just move ahead with your progress, you will find that their moods, temperaments and beliefs will begin to affect you less and less as your confidence and inner world grow. You will still love them as before, but expect less from them so the interaction becomes a much healthier one. Their actions affect only themselves. Naturally all balance has to be restored so if you change, you will see others around you change.

And what about finding new love, friendships or partnerships?

If you come into new relationships with a strong sense of self and of the qualities you have, then you come to it ready to give and receive love. The simplest key to creating a balanced relationship is to try to live day by day, helping each other and being good to each other, but do not confuse habit and comfort with love, sure they are nice but love brings risks and transformation, habit and comfort just create a smaller world, one that is easier to control, and since when has control been a fun experience? To love and be loved is to feel the warmth of serenity and the absence of fear. Love comes to us to help us remember life and all its possibilities for a new way of being. " Love is the supreme, the ultimate expression of humanity and the path for which all other paths are but preparation."

Let your inner compass come back to where it belongs, with your own true self. Full of self love and acceptance and standing peaceful in the knowledge that you are enough, just as you are. Xxx

So lets look again at what you can do...

* Accept yourself as good enough just as you are


* Stop splitting yourself, come back to your inner self


* Mirror love and gratitude


* Shower love and gratitude


* Give NO a go


* Learn to appreciate alone time, loneliness vs alone


* Understand balanced love

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Spread The Love Challenge

One thing we like to do often is 'spread the love'.

We go out into public and make little hearts from natural materials and leave them for people to find.   Leaves, stones, shells and flowers.  Who knows if people ever see these creations or recognise them, but my hope is that it puts a smile on their face, and seeing a heart makes them instantly register they have a heart.  Who knows? its a mystery but still I do it.

So this week I went to a place I know alot of people will be, in front of the park.  I did a chalk drawing on the pavement for people to read and hopefully get them thinking. 

If you dont have the leisure time I did to do something large without anyone really noticing then something as simple as a heart will do.  One day Im going to hide in the bushes to watch passers by, like a stalker? No!... but like a researcher? Yes!

So spread the love and get people to remember the most important thing in their busy frantic days. 

*IT'S STILL LOVE*

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Affirmations

The Power Of Changing Thought Patterns

I will always give these out on the first day of a new topic so you can have 2 weeks to use them.  So these are the affirmations I have chosen. Choose only one to write down every night 10x, and put the others you like on cards to stick around your house and read aloud when you randomly walk past every day.

* I am a living, loving, joyous expression of life. I am my own person

* I deserve and accept the very best in life, I love and approve of myself

* I am powerful, safe and secure

* I am a divine expression of life

* I love and accept myself where I am right now

* I now discover how wonderful I am, I am at peace with myself

* I choose to love and enjoy myself

* I rejoice in my own expression of life

* I am perfect just as I am and love and approve of myself

These will all help you with changing the way you accept yourself to totally loving yourself just as you are.

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Hope this helps you in your self love journey

In the next post...

Art Tutorial and Wild Woman Challenge

Much Love to you all

please comment and post about your experiences

xxx

Sheree

Welcome To Wild Woman Journeys

Welcome To Wild Woman Journeys

Why Do I Bring This Here, Why Now?

Somewhere in our pasts there was a time when women were wild, free creatures living their lives by their knowledge, endless power and intuition. They were filled with a worldly knowing that only a female could hold. The world was still as unsettled as today, but we were held differently. We knew who we were and that in itself gave us the ability to be free and confident in the natural world we lived. When I gave birth to my daughter I was transported back to this wild time. As I finally birthed my last vision was that I was a crouching woman with huge brown hair gripping the bottom of a tree, we roared together in a moment, a connection between our worlds, I felt I was in her body and she in mine, I knew this woman was me. I had revisited my wild past, birth had opened a door that was to remain open until I had put the knowledge I was about to learn into place, about returning to myself in a raw state, about being the wild u-tamed woman inside before she had been moulded and turned into the woman I saw before me. Here is what I had to learn on my journey and I wish to share it with others. If you feel a connection with Wild Woman Journeys, please use it as you want.

Every 2 weeks covers a different topic, which concentrates on inner changes, insights and work, nothing too heavy unless you want it to be!

Posted throughout the two weeks will be....

My writings - what I feel is important about the topic, lessons to share

My experience - a little story

Affirmations - affirmations which I suggest you use either verbally whenever you remember or leave it written somewhere to read, or write your chosen ones out each night 10x, they help make shifts in our thought process which then makes shifts in our cells so the affirmations become our new truths.

Guided Meditation - this can be listened to whenever you have a window of silence to use, I want to take you on a journey inside yourself, to unlock doors, solve problems, gain clarity and make changes. Guided meditation is way easier than silent meditation, if you can let yourself go and visualize, you will create the change you want to see in yourself.

Challenges - nothing too wild I promise unless you want it, just little things you can do to put these thoughts into action. Some people are more into physical acts, and these you can do with kids too

Artistic Creation - there is nothing like creating something with a little intention and seeing where it takes you, so a tutorial on the artistic journey

Wild Woman Challenge - something that takes you instantly deep, some of you would rather keep away from the dark side of ourselves, but for those who want more lets do it "with great pain comes great change"

Quotes - I love sending out others words of wisdom for you to benefit

Questionnaire - some questions you may want to ask yourself about the subject

I'm not sure how I need to present this but I feel I just need to get it out there and stop waiting, I encourage you to post about your experiences and leave a comment on the Wild Womans Journey post with a link to your page so we can can connect and all learn form each other, all the Wise Wild Women together.
You are learning through my experiences and I would love to learn through yours.

I hope you enjoy your time here
experiencing your return on your  
'Wild Woman Journey'
reclaiming your original you.....xxx

Bringing New Projects Into The Light

I love having new ideas about where I want my career/money making life to go.  I have pages upon pages of how the ideas will work, its all do-able, I CAN do everything, but for some reason I get overwhelmed when I start down the track and find myself distracted by anything that passes by, almost like I am willing things to drag me away, not letting myself commit to anything incase I get into it and change my mind and then what??? I give up? never.  So this way if I dont really start anything longterm, then I dont have to go thru giving up....anyone feeling me here??

How Do I Know Which Dream To Choose?

For so many of us creatives, there are ideas a plenty swirling in our heads, but  which is the one that is going to work.  I have done many workshops on this, desperately trying to find the one thing so that I can just stop all the flitting and concentrate for once on one thing that will be me, the ONE thing I will succeed at.  The One thing that will change me into a success and not a wandering hunter.

The answer isnt always that easy, If I concentrate on one thing for a year or two and it dosent work then what about the other things that may have worked and I poured my soul into this one instead.

The Short And The Long Projects

One thing I know is that I can excecute short projects with great ease, I can step by step anything into reality and love the pressure of a deadline and the thrill of pulling something off completely.  This is where I thrive and completely succeed.  Is it then possible for me to see a project of the long sort as a whole lot of little bits that I complete and are all put together in a never ending train??  Is this how people tackle business success, do you look ahead to the big picture or is that off putting.  Small successes all joined together?

Going Thru A Business Creating Attunement

I know this is what is happening to me right now and has been happening all week.  On the weekend I projected to a few friends that i had finally figured what I wanted to do and it sounded fantastic and I loved every bit of it, the ideas have been flowing, I have been filling pages upon pages of ideas and excecution plans.  It all sounded so easy and more importantly so achieveable.  People could feel what I was trying to achieve and they loved it too, it seems so real and easy to talk about, it always is, so the ideas are all there, there is no lack of a plan!

The Frustration Of Creation?

And I donot! like writing this heading, should creation equal frustration???  I have been trying to put my plan together to get my work out there, to make the changes I will need when I throw my talents for you to catch but I have hit snags, technical snags called not enough knowledge, in the computer area.  I know what I need to do but spend hours trying and failing and being heartbroken. I need a computer geek friend to tutor me for sure. This is my one major hurdle that seems to put the brakes on everything.

Figuring Out What The Problem Is

 So I have figured that this is where my frustration lies.  I am living in an isolated town where not too many people care what I can do, but then Im part of this amazing on line world where people get me, so it is here that I am projecting my professional life, the problem is that Im kinda a farm girl and do everything by hand and face to face.  My experience with digital stuff is minimal, so trying to extend and expand myself in the digital world has me running into walls every day.  I am left bursting at the seams with my creativity and no power to release it, except back to paper and pen.

The Solution

Instead of giving up at these hurdles I am going to learn,... something like a new computer skill per week, that way I can evolve with my skills and there isnt the pressure to do everything now! which tends to make me run.  I need to come to you in bits, starting my new project small and allowing it to grow with me.  Do you ever see peoples end products and want to be there now??? yeah me too!  But i cant commit to full time anyway until Indi is at school, so that gives me 1.5 years to get something going part time and then exploding into full time.

The Blessed Action

Today I will try again to complete my first meditation recording with Paitence, although I have worked at it for 3 days I now feel I have made enough mistakes to have sussed out at least half of the functions! haha

The Big Idea

On Monday I will start small by posting my first section in something I have wanted and planned to make an e-course, Im going to change topics every 2 weeks and its completely open. 

This course is all about the inside of you, shining thru to the outside.  Re-learning what life is about and how to live and experience it, for yourself, for your soul, for your own joy which will overflow onto others.  Its about stripping back what you have been told to be and re touching with the female essence inside, the original wild woman, before she was tamed by the world.  Im going to draw on everything I have learnt so far. Monday starts with the first topic on 'LOVE'..and self love too,  Other weeks will be Gratitude, Fear, Grace, Well Being, Creativity, Envy, Compassion, Wisdom, Confidence, Freedom etc etc....So please join me, public or private, as long as you are there that is all that matters.....

'Wild Woman Journeys'

*Be There*

Thanks for reading my processing
much love and courage to all your projects

xxx
Sheree

And Sometimes We Blog To Creatively VENT!

Dear little notebook laptop,

I brought you so that I could be a more frequent blogger,

life was gonna be easier,

I could blog on the go,

I would have more time to write my book,

 you were the little inspirational tool that was going to solve all the problems that I thought I had.

and then you arrived,

you were tiny,

all i could afford,

frustratingly small,

 hard to type on,

a battery life of 45 mins MAX!

no space to save anything but on a usb stick,

no programmes of any use to me,

 not able to connect to internet thought god did I try!!!!!

YOU SUCK!!

you mass produced piece of junk! 

I feel you have tricked me and sent all my dreams crumbling down,

I walk past you now with disdain,

I dont like your pink exterior,

your keyboard

 or the way you decide crap things for yourself ..

like where the curser should suddenly be.!!!!

I wish I had married another,

I wish I had married a MacBook!

so harsh I know but who could see this coming?? ...

ohh hang on ... everyone!

I want to start over,

I want to be a Mac lover.

It is taking all my strength to not throw you at the wall right now!

I want a MacBook!!!!!!!

waah waah waahhhhh I want a Mac Book!!!!

uuhhh  blub blub blub : (

Ehheeeemmm (regaining composure)

Anyone else having a regret today???

Is yours also a pink piece of junk that plugs into the wall??

We are revealing all sides of our personaltities here arent we??

Eeeekk!

xxx

Sheree

Mooomeee Has Arrived!

Here is the first picture of the new addition to our family farm of crazy animals. 

I finally have a milking cow and she is beautiful.  Right now she is pregnant so I dont have to milk till January which means plenty of fresh cheese for summer salads.  Im so looking forward to a long hot summer and for those who are having one, spread your wings and enjoy it!

Yay for new additions

xxx

Sheree

Tea Party Giveaway Winners

I always love a giveaway, it makes me feel giddy sending off little bits of myself to people from all over the world.  We have chilly winds but stubborn Calendula who will not give up without a fight, so I decided they were the perfect little darlings to help me with my name drawing process.

I numbered the petals to 59...

an exact amount really because there were little petals left over!..

had my trusty un-biased assistant play "he loves me, he loves me not"  (thankyou Shrek)

and pick everything but two lucky petals...

very slow work ....  ....   ....   ....  ...!

and we finally had two winners who each get the sepia photo magnet with affirmation (see bottom of page)

they are

Tabitha from Pabkins who had a Mad Hatter Wedding, it looked amazing, she makes dolls, very inspiring!

and

Michelle from Que Bella who had some cute actresses and actors at her Tea Party. Her Black Cat Ali is a witches dream, Love a slim sleek cat!

a good mornings work for a piece of chocolate!

this is why she is such an amazing model and assistant, its like a Donkey with a carrot, especailly if she can see the chocolate waiting on the table!!

 

So thankyou to everyone else who ventured along to my Party!

There sure were some amazing parties out there, such inspiration for next year : )

and for those who didnt win but still loved the photo, I have uploaded it here full size so you can print it out clearly for yourself.  So go ahead and print away.

Its an important reminder to us all.

We have lots going on today for sure, all in the animal realm, I will have to do another post tonight about our new additions.

have a wonderous day

and keep smiling!

xxx

Sheree



The Lemon Curd Sun Shining In

There aint no sun in the sky, so I have been looking around me for a little sunshine, and there are yellow things everywhere to brighten my day.

And the yellow thing I have a plenty is Lemons!

and when you have lemons you make lemon curd! 

ohhh I have eggs a plenty too : )  thankyou pretty chickens

so I grate the rind off 8 lemons (snore)

melt butter and sugar together

and scoop most of it out with my finger, who can resist melted butter!

squeeze the 8 lemons

add more sugar to the butter and sugar! eek

and beat 8 eggs together, (we use eggs for learning numbers and colours)

mix the butter mixture with the egg and rind and stir

over a double boiler

for what seems like eternity... but you end up sort of meditating, watching the foam swirl and make pictures, its quite a nice zone out, so dont make this if your in a hurry!

I can see a unicorn, what do you see???

It is finally bottled into sterilised jars, and here is the recipe, I doubled mine..

and got 6 little jars!!!! What?? yes it dosent produce much at all

but ohhh that summer glow, made with winter fruits, trapped in glass, it is worth it. Today I made fairy cakes with lemon insides, they will be scrummy tonight at art class xxx

So while it IS winter, its not that cold here, it rains every day, rain shine rain shine rain shine rain shine, drives you a bit mad really!  because its blahh out we make it all bling inside and something a little summery to do is eat ice cream and jelly...

FOR BREAKFAST!! 

yes I know...

 'Worlds Best Mum'!!!!

sign me up!

 if only my defiant 3 year old knew that!!



She has no idea that this is not normal!

but hey breakfast lunch and tea, no difference with me!

Let the sun shine in!

whats your favorite food your bingeing on at the moment???

mine is chopped up fruit and greek yoghurt, its my Oprah snack time!

Happy Days To You

xxx

Sheree

P.S. welcome to the new people from the Tea Party, I love the way these events bring us together with like minded people

love love love it!

mwahhh